I have heard it said that the secret to your future is hidden in your daily routine. Change your routine and you will change your life.
The best routine I ever changed was my self-talk. Self-talk is just that, the way in which I talked with myself, and the mental messages I listened to in my mind. This one change in my routine has
- saved my marriage,
- fostered closer relationships,
- improved my health,
- and helped me accomplish many of my dreams.
Have you ever stopped and listened to how you talk to yourself? You’re probably saying, “I don’t talk to myself”. Spoil alert…. You do. We all do!
That conversation that is going on in your head, is feeding the gas peddle to your motivation and confidence; or draining the tank. These mental conversations are the driving force and determine your course of travel and ultimately your destination.
Mark twain once said, “I’m always in conversation and sometimes other people are involved.”
What does Self-talk have to do with driving?
When I am traveling to an unknown location, I would never make it without the GPS on my phone. I simply would not be driving in the right direction. There have been a few times when I put my address into my GPS, only to have a screen pop-up that says, “Destination cannot be found?” YIKES!!! Now what do I do? Something is blocking my signal and my phone cannot get a clear reading.
What is Self-Talk?
The same concept applies to self-talk. You may be fueling your mind with language that is clogging up the pathways of communication. You are not only stopping your progress, but also your ability to hear direction from God. He has a course for you. A road of inspired direction that you will easily miss, because you are mentally talking yourself into taking another course.
If you choose to continue, you will end up at a totally different destination then the one you originally wanted. So, what you say to yourself is important. Your words will be the driving force behind good grades, strong relationships, and even gold medals.
Is Self-talk Good? The Talk of Champions
I heard about an article in Atlantic.com
A study was done in 1993, asking 17 Champion Figure Skaters, how they coped with stress. What were their trade secrets? What was found was 158 unique strategies, that they used.
The Most common strategy used, which was used by 76% of the skaters, was “SELF TALK”
Those skaters got into the driver’s seat of their mind and used SELF TALK to affect their performance.
Self-Talk CHANGES YOUR ATTITUDE AND YOUR OUTCOME.
RUBIN GONZOLAS, an Olympic medalist, recognized the power of self-talk. He made a list of daily statements which he called the Champion Creed.
He said it helped him “to be Resilient in the face of life challenges.” He believed it helped him to stay focused and become a 3 time Olympic medalist
The Champion Creed by Rubin Gonzolas
- I am a champion
- I believe in myself.
- I have the will to win.
- I set high goals for myself.
- I surround myself with winners
- I’m cool, positive, and confident
- I have courage. I never give up.
- I’m willing to pay the price of success
- I love the struggle and the competition
- I stay relaxed and in control at all times
- I focus all my energy on the job at hand.
- I vividly imagine what victory will feel like
- I am a champion and I WILL WIN!
Watch this fun and inspiring video as he speaks to us about his experiences
Start Each day’s routine by fine tuning your mind
I believe in starting each day like a champion, and to do that I must fine tune my mind set.
I start with the moment I open my eyes.
I say a simple statement several times over in my head…” It is going to be a great day!”
What do I do?
I use the Cre8 Reminders to draft up personal statements designed to cancel out the negative attitudes that I may be feeling at the time.
- Reading them throughout the day is important; however, if that is not possible, make sure that each statement is read in the morning when you get up
- and in the evening right before bed.
- The goal is to make these statements stronger than the dialogue that is currently running through your mind,
- take a moment to look in the mirror, eyeball to eyeball, and say them out loud.
The voice in your head is a running commentary to yourself…. about yourself
Brain research has found out that we sendourselves messages at a rate of nearly 500 words per minute. That seems almost impossible, but remember this conversation is happening inside where nobody hears, but you
A thought has a way of creating its own reality. One might say, “you hold your future in the palm of your hand,” but the true reality is, the future is created in the space between our ears.
Which lead us to an important truth…
What you think, and focus on, will magnify and become a reality.
So, if you dwell on negative thoughts, a negative attitude will be created. An attitude that will stop you from reaching your dreams. I have heard it said that very little effort is required to think negatively. But to create positive thoughts takes constant effort.
Getting an A, starts with believing that you are capable of getting an A
I once heard a story of a College professor who was getting ready to give the final exam for his class. He started bragging on the class, telling them how well they had done through the semester. He told them that because they had done so well, he wanted to offer them something special. He said, “anyone that would be happy with an automatic c grade on the test, could just raise your hand, and you will not have to take the test. No worry that you will fail, because I will give you an automatic C as the final test grade. You will be able to pass the test with flying colors.
The students were shocked and surprised. Slowly one hand went up, and then another hand went up, and then another. Within a few minutes half of the class had their hand up. He excused them and told them that their final test grade would be a C. Excitedly these students exited the class, giving each other a high 5 as they passed through the door. The air was filled with a feeling of relief as the stress of taking a test lifted. These students were ecstatic that they would not have to worry about getting a failing grade.
The students who stayed
Then the professor went on to pass out the test to the other students. As he passed by each desk he laid the test face down on their desk, and told them “do not turn these pages over until I tell you to do so.”
He then continued to encourage them. He told them how they were going to go far in life, how their belief and positive attitude was going to take them to great places. He told them, “Always continue to believe in yourself, and strive to do your best, just like you have done today.” Then he instructed them to turn the test over and get started.
The students turned the pages over, and to their surprise, there were only 2 sentences on the paper. They read,
Wow! Because of their belief, that they could do a better job at taking the test, than accepting the average….a C; is what actually gave them an instant A.
They were the students who set a standard for themselves to be higher than average; the ones who had a positive attitude, and believed that they had what it took to get an A. In reality got the A.
Why settle for less?
Why allow your life to be driven from thoughts that create a negative attitude?
The compiling of negative thoughts is what creates a negative attitude. That thinking that
- you will always have to struggle…
- you do not have what it takes to succeed…
- you are not prepared…
- your not smart enough….
and the list goes on and on.
Taking the easy routine and Being Average
When you allow negative thoughts to stay, and formulate a negative attitude, the perception that is talking in your mind is, “I am settling for a C.” “I would rather be average, than risk failing.” “I feel safer choosing to just barely make it….than to face the challenge of a new experience.”
Your mental self-talk will constantly talk you out of great things in your life…. You will always feel inadequate, unqualified, too shy, not good enough, not enough skill, just average, etc.; unless, you change the direction that your thoughts naturally drive.
Be BOLD ! Make a U-turn in your route and Believe in Yourself.
Believe in possibilities. Like the sparks shooting around in a plasma ball, there are so many possibilities dancing around you.
Set your standard of Faith by pressing on the gas peddle and accelerate your belief. Use your words for power and the direction to charge and focus your action.
Right now, is the time to take the wheel and become the driver of your thoughts. Start speaking words that program you internal GPS toward faith, growth, and hope in your life. With these directions you will not get lost.
Do you want to See where your Life is heading?
Time to get “real” with yourself by listening to the words that are coming out of your mouth.
You believe yourself more than anyone else. What you repeatedly hear, you will eventually believe
Nothing comes out of your mouth that has not been thought of first.
The big buzz word right now is to Be Authentic. Be the “real you”. Truthfully, the real you is what you are creating in your mind.
- Get up-close, and personal with your real thoughts.
- Listen to the real words you are speaking.
I am 100% sure, that if you throw out that negative thought, replace it with positive thoughts that create a positive attitude, you will actually begin to Change what you see happening in your life.
I want you to have my personal list of positive affirmations. Click the link above and start accessing these affirmations.
You believe yourself more than anybody. What you repeatedly hear, you eventually believe. Now is the time to take the wheel and drive your thoughts in the direction of where you really want to go.