Make Ready for New Chapters in Life

Today as I passed the extremely long line of cars waiting to pull into the school parking lot to drop their kids off for the first day, I could not help but stop and reflect and actually feel a little bit in shock.

This is the first day in 31 years that I DO NOT have a child going to school…well at least Elementary thru High School.

That would be thirty-one years of fighting the crowds in the school supply isles.  Thirsty-one years of getting clothes ready and packing lunches.  Thirty-one years of homework, recitals, after school practice and games.  

These thoughts did not bring me to tears, yet I felt a bit unsettled.  I was sad, and at the same time almost joyful as I passed that long, long, long line of cars. 🚗 

There are so many memories, thoughts and emotions that I know it would be unhealthy to simply bottle them up.  This is a perfect reason to craft a Cre8 Reminders© to manage my emotions.

Bottled Emotions

An insight into our thoughts

While studying some of the customs in the Jewish culture I found myself fascinated by their rich symbolic meaning. One particular ritual has changed the way I now choose to view my body and 20131203_212018a ultimately my health. This particular custom focuses on how they were taught to keep a record of the amount of hardship, sadness, and grief that they each would experience during their life.
My understanding of the custom is that each Jewish child is given a small bottle that is about 1″ to 1 ½” tall. This bottle is of great importance, so much that they are to hold on to it up until the time of their death. Its purpose is to collect one tear for every time that they experience grief, sadness or some type of turmoil throughout their life.
The individual collects a tear not only from themselves but also from anyone else that experiences this sadness along with them. Tears were collected in the bottle up to the time of their death, as well as a tear from everyone that attended their funeral.
This bottle was then buried with the individual. The intent was that they would take the bottle back to God to show Him the great number of sorrows, turmoil, and grief that they had experienced throughout their whole life. My understanding is that this was their way of proving to God that their life was exceptionally hard and how much they had to endure.
Years ago, while teaching this concept, my friend Donna Neilson, author of Beloved Bridegroom, expanded my vision as she expounded on the woman in the New Testament who bathed the Savior’s feet with her tears. She, in essence, is emptying her tear bottle at the Savior’s feet. This act of service showed her willingness to give to Him all of her sorrow, grief, and hardships. She was demonstrating her faith and trust in Him to take these precious tears back to God on her behalf.

A Product of our Thoughts

I found myself pondering on the imagery and how our body is referred to as vessels in the scriptures, and how we become a product of our thoughts whether they are on a conscious or a subconscious level. A light went on in my mind of a concept that has become common knowledge now. An understanding that our body is a physical manifestation of events and perceptions that have been recorded and stored on a cellular level. My body is a symbol of all that I have suffered and had to endure through my journey called life. Instantly in my mind I saw my body as a large TEAR BOTTLE holding all the emotions that have been left unresolved and have no way of escaping.

Fooling Yourself

We have all become masters at fooling ourself into believing that that past experiences no longer have control over us. Through the journey of finding peace, those feelings of anger, frustrations, and sorrow are pushed down and buried deep within. This buried emotion is connected to a perception, which over time begins to create unnecessary stress in the mind and eventually overwhelms the body’s ability to function.  The result is a cellular break down, causing disease in the body.

A Visual Demonstration

Picture in your mind a quart mason jar.  If I were to begin tapping lightly on its side with a metal spoon the vibration that resonates from the jar would be a high tapping sound as metal hit glass.  If I then began to add water to fill the jar in increments of 1/4th, you would begin to hear the pitch lower each time I added water.  

Your body, similar to the glass jar vibrates at a particular frequency depending on our state of mind and attitude. The vibration will begin to lower and become sluggish the more stress that you choose to hold within.

Thinking of your body symbolically as a tear bottle can help to illuminate the effects that stress has on your body. Not only does stress contribute to illness but it is a key component to weight gain and one’s outlook in life. 

The ability to see and stop the outward product of your mind’s internal chaos and disorder is difficult.  This is because the change to your body is so gradual, making you totally unaware of what is happening to your body. 

The Power of Each Thought

I feel that it is important to understand the principle… that every thought has the power to create a positive or negative result in the body and that by emptying our mind of these negative thoughts and perceptions, could also be the remedy that brings greater health to our body. 

So pay attention to your thoughts, fears, and perceptions.  One simple thought, small and insignificant, can be compared to a mustard seed. Both appear so unimportant, but when nourished both have the potential to develop into something very large. The mustard plant has been known to grow in height up to 15 feet.  I find that pretty amazing, and all from such a tiny seed.
From a Christian perspective, the scriptures, teach how important and powerful our thoughts are. For example, Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:….”, and Mark 7:23 “All these evil things (motivations) come from within, and defile the man.

An Emotion is the Result of a Thought

 A perception is the mind’s creation of an experience. A perception is a culmination of everything you saw, heard, felt, and possibly tasted and smelled during a situation.  It is the pulling together of all positive or negative thoughts to be recorded in your subconscious mind connected to that situation.  Therefore, when life presents a new situation, the mind searches through its files to find something to associate the new situation with.  If earlier events were positive, then you will feel comfortable and confident in this new situation.  However, if you experienced and earlier events that was negative, all those emotions and feelings will come flooding back into your mind.  In an instant you have connected those past perceptions to this new situation and begin actin accordingly to how you feel.  

Stored away in our subconscious are countless perception files that are positive or negative based.
These early created perceptions become the foundation for which future conclusions are made and become your perception of reality. 

Another Book Opened

I think of the scripture in Revelation that speaks of another book being opened.  That other book could be our body revealing all the information that it has recorded and stored.   The idea of replacing negative perceptions becomes of great importance when one becomes interested in improving their health.

The old, negative perceptions will begin to die away when there is an alternative perception to focus on. Cre8 Reminders© helps you generate those alternative perceptions.  The very act of crafting a strong positive thought is like opening up the bottle and creating a pathway for light to enter in.

These new strong perceptions composed from Cre8 Reminders© replace the perceptions that have been fueling habits and addictive behavior…..hope is restored and freedom can be felt. 

The Light that Illuminates a Dark Sky

How grateful one becomes for the moon and stars that illuminate the sky when darkness begins to fall   around them. That same feeling can be felt as one begins to experience unconditional awareness. Unconditional awareness is the ability to say to yourself, “What is the lesson I am wanting to learn?” This type of awareness stops the judgement and guilt that will begin to weight you down through your thoughts. Unconditional awareness is a light that brings courage to your heart and mind when you choose to become aware

Disconnect the Thought, Break the Circuit

The ultimate goal is to disconnect the thought in our mind that creates a circuit of repeating the same information over and over. The continual repeating of this energy information charges up an emotion which goes from the brain directly into the body.
Our brain is filled with endless numbers of neuro-pathways that over time have become enforced by thoughts, perceptions, and habits which are repeated over and over. To change the neuro-pathways one must introduce an alternate route in which the signal may travel. You must create a new thought to replace the present thought.

I tell my clients that there is a split second, right between the acceptance of a particular thought and the attached perception which follows. This split second is crucial. It is called “the moment of choice.” It is a choice as to how one chooses to perceive what is happening right at that particular moment. A choice that opens the gate for a flood of emotions to follow.

Once you start to understand this “moment of choice” you begin to take control over what you want to experience mentally as well as emotionally. You become a creator rather than a victim in your thinking.  You choose to be an influencer that seeks to create a Real Positive Change

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Another one of my favorite ways to empty my tear bottle of old emotional baggage is…..


There have been numerous studies using an electroencephalogram (EEG) to measure brain-wave activity and how it can be affected by music. The two brain-waves most commonly discussed are the Beta, which is full awareness, our cognitive thinking; and the Alpha which could be explained as a “relaxed alertness” or daydreaming.
When an individual picks music that is familiar to them they end up thinking about the words, as well as the event or time that is attached to that particular song or piece of music. This keeps the beta-waves engaged focusing in on the words and memories. They continue to work rather than allowing the mind and body to relax. If the individual were to pick an unfamiliar piece of music, the beta-waves would begin to lower because they would not have anything to do; this would induce a calming state over the body. These sounds which are unfamiliar to the mind will now become associated with a period of relaxation; therefore, allowing the alpha-waves to kick in. It only takes the mind about four minutes to reach this peaceful state.

Music can Cross Barriers

Some music is filled with light while other music can be destructive to an individual’s mental and emotional state as well as their health. I have seen people who through their choice of music have become agitated and very angry. And I have seen people who feel relaxed in their mind and body because of the effects that certain sounds. Studies have proven that music can modify behavior positive or negative, besides help to raise or lower one’s attitude; a welcome relief for those who suffer from depression.

Music Speaks to the Soul

Music is filled with energy vibrations that create beats, pulse, rhythm, melody, harmony, time and space. Music transforms our thoughts. It gives the listener the ability to be taken back to a specific time and place. Music can communicate, empathize, and elicit understanding far greater than the spoken word ever could.  

As part of my online membership community you will have access to the music from the cd Comfort.  This music touches those inexpressible emotions bringing a welcome sense of recognition and release.  

Our brain is divided in half, each side having a separate and different function. The left side holds your beliefs, values, and expectations. It controls language and reading skills besides gathering information and processes it. It does speaking and solving. The right side is the artistic side. It is spontaneous, intuitive, non-verbal, visual and spatial. It holds all the pictures as well as all our emotions and memories which are attached to those pictures. For one to be balanced and enjoy the most out of life, the brain must utilize the functions of both sides, sending messages back and forth, each working and harmonizing together. Music has the power to integrate both sides creating a balance which then transmits throughout the body.
Often we have a tendency to want to struggle through life, not relying on the assistance offered to us from God. Our independent nature causes us to act alone. In no time, our mental rhythm is off and disrupting the harmonizing of the rest of the orchestra found within our body. Certain types of Music is heavens gift that encourages our constantly moving thoughts to move back into a calm balance and a place of peace.


[1] Romans 13:12

[2]James 5:16

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