Have you ever considered what might be THE driving force behind the attitudes and reactions that you are feeling?
Stress is the body’s reaction to Worries that we Hold in our Mind
When these 7 Basic Needs are met, we feel a greater sense of peace. We feel motivated, positive and satisfied.
I pay attention to these 7 Basic NEEDS to ensure a POSITIVE ATTITUDE
When a need is being ignored, an inner conflict develops and negative reactions to daily situations become the automatic response.
We have all experienced times when our emotional bucket is empty, yet we ignore the signs of exhaustion thinking we are the “Ever-Ready Bunny”. Something has to give. Usually, it is our health or emotional state of mind.
Short-tempered and impatience are definite signs that we have ignored our own needs, as well as the emotional state of being depleted, worn out, and discouraged.
For me personally, when one of these 7 needs is ignored my level of resilience begins to plummet and responding positively to day-to-day situations becomes more challenging.
We all have these basic core Needs.
All of us have the same (7) needs, or what one might refer to as driving forces. The needs act similar to the foundation of a house.
The more consistent attention given to each need daily, the greater your emotional foundation will stay strong. You will have the ability to respond positively to negative situations as they arise throughout the day. However, if one or more is ignored then the foundation becomes weak and the emotional house begins to fall down…so to speak.
When all needs are being addressed one feels clarity and confidence.
These seven needs help a person to respond clearly and confidently to situations. They help to filter out the your true perceptions from your false perceptions. The longer a need is ignored the greater the build-up of emotion. The build up continues until a situation begins lights the fuse and the person’s reaction is explosive. ie. Anger, frustration, impatience, ignoring, etc.
A FEW THOUGHTS FOR MOTHERS
Think about a Child who won’t stop crying when a parent leaves.
The first need that comes to mind is the Need for Security. This particular need focuses on the feeling that one is protected and has a sense of surety about what is going on. A sense of surety is what creates inner emotional stability.
Other reactions that give you clues that this need is not being met are temper, loneliness, insecurity, indecision, confusion, and even doubt. These are all indicators, clues you might say, that something is not working right and it is time to address this need.
Quick easy ways to address this need.
The two key ways to fill this need is with “touch” and “time“.
Time means spending extra time with the individual, one-on-one, and addressing them directly face to face. Now, at that particular moment, you may feel that you don’t have the “extra” time to address this issue. These thoughts not only stress you out, but they send an emotional message to the child that that validates their current feelings.
Children are like mirrors
Many times our children act as mirrors to our own emotional state.
When you say in your own mind that you never have enough time, watch what happens around you. Can you see your children becoming whinny, or even miss-behaving? I have found that their actions are like a mirror that is bringing attention to MY problem. Sounds crazy, I know; but I have experienced it in my own life. ,
Either way, you must change the perception in your mind, focusing more on the thoughts, “I have all the time that I need” “I have all the time that you need”. This can be challenging when your schedule is tight, or you saying to yourself….” let me just get to this point, and then I will do ______,”. Another similar statement is, “I have to do this ONE more thing and then I can give you my time and attention”.
Stress is the body’s reaction to Worries that we Hold in our Mind
To stop the stress reaction, one must give their mind something else to think about. The Grow Joy program offers a huge library of positive thoughts which I call, Creative Reminders.
These thoughts – Creative Reminders, become what is known as an “Anchor Thought“. An anchor thought is a thought created to help you feel more comfortable.