I put this question, “Can a woman still be elegant, even when she is at home with the kids?”. And I got some wonderful responses. I would like to share a few of the thoughts.
Mona McClelland shared an insightful post:
“Today my daughter said to me..” Mom…Why are you all dressed up”? I told her…I just felt like wearing a dress today. She said ” you look really nice mom, you even fluffed up your hair”. Amazing what kids are noticing….when they DON’T say anything.
Truth be told… I had an “off” day yesterday and I knew that I needed to take care of my own self esteem today AND Clothing is one of the easiest ways to help your own mood.
Elegant is a personal definition….for some it is being dressed to the nines with all the bells and whistles…and for others it is washing your hair, putting on some mascara and lip gloss and a nice skirt with sandals.
What I think is important to get here is to do WHAT IT TAKES to make your self feel good….elegant or otherwise and know…as Cherrye stated… YOU are the role model your kids are emulating. It may be helpful every day to ask yourself…”What result are you looking for in your children?” …then dress, act and be that accordingly!”
Thanks for the great question Cathy,
I and my clients are grateful!
Mona the “Busy Mom Mentor” http://WhenMomsHappy.com
Cherrye Vasquez, Ph.D.
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Yes, we know that philosophy, Jennifer – “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” but I believe Cathy was speaking of what we could do physically. We also have to remember that being elegant also involves our actions, speech and the way we carry ourselves. When we act, feel and look pretty, it all encompasses elegance.
We can also go back to the bible search for and read what God has said for the woman in her household. We certainly can’t go wrong then, right?
Take Care All – This is a great forum discussion, and highly important, I believe. It certainly helps our children as they grow, mature. This will help them when they begin to find significant others in their lives, and know what to look for – perhaps.
Cherrye S. Vasquez, Ph.D.
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I really got a giggle when I read this about the mom in her pajamas.
Children’s Author, Owner Maternalmanager.com,
Yes, she can. Sometimes for my own sanity I needed to do that. I had baby barf on one shoulder and ketchup on my dress from my 3 year old’s french fries. A friend of mine wore her pajamas to drop her kids off at school, but tossed on a hat, lipstick, and a beaded necklace. One day I was at Walmart before I looked down and saw I was wearing two different white shoes. Even if it’s in a small way, I need something which makes me feel like I’m more than a mom.
To be elegant I believe is a womanly art. It is something that we radiate from our very nature. It is the culmination of gentleness, compassion, and natural beauty.
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