“The deepest hunger in human beings,” said William James, “is the desire to be appreciated.” How many times in your life have you heard, or said the words, “It’s not fair”? Do you realize that what you were attempting to express about yourself or someone else, is a lack of kindness and appreciation, a lack of acknowledgment, but more importantly a recognition of personal value
Throughout my life, I have prided myself in thinking that I have not given much attention to this phrase. At least that is what I have fooled myself into thinking. I have become very skilled at hiding from myself the fact that I too mumble these words, thinking that I was choosing to look for a more positive side to focus my attention on.
I had gotten pretty good at this strategy, until a recent high school volleyball game. There I was, sitting with my favorite buds when this statement, “That’s not fair”, began presenting itself. It came in so many different forms, that within such a short time, my full attention was captivated by its enticing pull. Continue reading