Have you ever had a habit take you hostage blinding your awareness to what was really happening? My love for chocolate had become a deep obsession. Often I would laugh and jokingly say, “I love chocolate so much that I can not live without it.”
One evening I sat visiting with a friend talking over the importance of eating healthy. My comment went something like…I can eat healthy and do without a lot of unhealthy food, but I can’t live without my chocolate. No sooner had the words come tumbling out of my mouth, when I realized that my little joke, was really not a joke. I no longer was in control, but rather something else was controlling me. I never realized, I was THAT addicted. It always simply seemed like such a harmless habit….or was it?
Pants a bit too tight !
Of course I should have recognized the clues, like my pants becoming a bit too tight. I shrugged it off to extra weight accumulated over those lazy winter months. I chose to blame it all on the poor cold winter, while pretending that those extra bags of chocolate kisses, chocolate chips, chocolate nuts, and chocolate goodies had nothing to do with the extra weight gain. Seriously, Cathy….what were you thinking?
Wake up Call
Thank heavens for these little wake up calls… the ones that give you a nudge to look squarely in the mirror. YIKES, where did all THAT come from? There was a time several years ago, that I would grab a chocolate bar while waiting at the grocery checkout stand. They want you to believe that they put them there to help, your energy kick back in gear, after such an exhausting adventure. That was my first wake-up moment when I decided that their attempt to provide extra convenience, was really not helping me. I went cold turkey and turned the other way each time I hit the check out lanes. “What will power” I proudly told myself, thinking that I was back in charge.
Let me say, going cold turkey and using super-human will power is a tough way to go. Now, I prefer to use a 5 step process I’ve developed to unlock the emotional grip of unhealthy habits. This process supports the process of creating a new discipline, putting me in charge, rather than falling slave to a habit and emotional prison.
First Steps First
I decided to cut chocolate out for a week. Now, I hear you laughing and saying, “is that all”? What? No cold turkey? One of the first problems is when you tell yourself to “stop” thinking about, something…you automatically begin to think of it more. So, first I set the clear understanding that that I give myself permission to eat chocolate whenever I really feel that I want to. The more you say, “I am NEVER eating chocolate again”, the more you will fight the cravings.
I focus more on finding fun, healthier ways to de-stress and relax my nerves. I pay attention to what emotional need is showing up, filling that need in other positive ways than the chocolate. Every thought releases a duplicate chemical that races throughout our body; therefore, I selectively choose specific, high frequency, thoughts that will energizer my mind and fortify my resilience. I then begin the creative process of creating a new picture of how I want to feel and be seen.
I began the process and before I knew it, a week had gone by and the desire for eating chocolate had not crossed my mind. I had totally forgotten about it, until I was staring at a chocolate covered strawberry sitting on my plate while attending a wedding shower. Now came the moment of truth. What would I do? I only had one on my plate and I would not want to be rude and leave it, besides how delicious. As I picked it up, the thought came back to my mind…”What is more important to you?” I quickly put it down. I was then inspired with the simple thought of peeling the chocolate off the strawberry. What a simple solution and Wow, what a victory!
The BIG test
Then came the BIG test, Easter. Who could resist all those chocolate yummies! WELL I DID ! I was amazed that I was not tempted to sneak a little treat, as I filled the baskets. Nope, not a one.
Third Test – My Sons Birthday
I flew by that hurdle when just a week later my third test appeared, my sons birthday. By now what I thought might be a war, or at least a power struggle has become an exciting challenge and adventure.
With each temptation comes another pleasant surprise, This time as I cruised down the ice cream isle, I found the “expensive” brand was offering a special price. I stopped, opened the freezer case, and started my search. First I grabbed Homemade Vanilla, but then I saw the many kinds of chocolate delight…..I paused for a minute, asking myself if I should get two since the ice cream were on sale. Nope, came my answer as I put back the second container filled with chocolate, and swirled back around to head down the isle. My son asked for an ice cream cake, so the picture on the left is his “special cake”. I made him our favorite English Toffee ice cream bars, surrounded by chocolate Eclairs. Yummy, Yummy.
As I found myself faced with another decision, resisting was not a struggle. I have lost most all of the craving and my desired goal of seeing how long I can go, has become far more important to me. I am not depriving myself, I still eat some of the eclairs, but only after I took the chocolate off completely.
Here is a recap of the 5 simple step process to build real resilience, fortified with positive action creating a change of outcome. Instead of feeling like I am at war with myself, I have been able to take back control, and turn this whole thing into an exciting adventure.
It only take 5 simple steps…..
- The awakening
- Discover which of the 7 Emotional needs you are feeding
- Decide what it “Most” Important to you & if you are ready to shift your thinking
- Sift the thought holding the vibration
- Create the New View