I want the fairytale ending….don’t you?
In my coaching business many clients come, asking me to “Fix” their husband or child. They have tried to find a solution but are now at a breaking point, because of the struggles that have come into their life. My heart goes out to them with total understanding of what they are feeling.
The reality is, no one can “fix” another person, unless they want to be “fixed”. I have found it far better, and longer lasting, if you discover ways to focus on being happy for yourself, express kindness to others, and leave them to their desired ways of living.
The only one you can fix, is you
What we work towards is a new level of Objectivity….the ability to understand how the situation is being perceived and choose to create a new lens to see life’s situations through. These old lenses become so comfortable and natural, that a person never suspects them to be out of focus for others. This is where the ripple effect of discontent begins.
Great the day with a smile.
Have you ever heard the song…”No one likes a frowny face, change it to a smile. Make the world a better place by smiling all the while”? A fun child’s tune with great impact. It is hard to be down and upset when you carry a smile on your face.
I went through a period of stressful worry. From the moment I awoke, I had concerns on my mind. My countenance was beginning to drop in energy and I found myself feeling frustrated much of the time. Once I recognized what I was doing, I wanted to change. From that point forward, I determined to wake each day with a smile. The first thought that I would allow to come into my mind were these words, “This is going to be a great day !” I send them with great enthusiasm, like a child waking on their birthday with great anticipation. I then would find creative ways to express my “decided joy”, which ultimately magnified a stronger and more real positive feeling.
Mission …..to be set free
- First – I had to face what I was seeing. Stop and objectively look from the “birds eye view” rather than my personal tunnel vision.
- Second – Realize that much of my motivation was generated from fear…..the fear that situations would not turn out right.
- Third – Grant others freedom to make their choice, and experience the result of that choice.
- Fourth – Focus on my positive changes. Many times I found myself frustrated that I was experiencing the ripples of another’s choice. I often would ask God to take this burden from me. At first I totally expected the burden to be removed, but realized that what I was given was far greater of a treasure. I was given the power and strength to deal with, and overcome the situation.
Our thoughts are a form of creative expression
The greatest movement towards happiness is to understand that How You View your situation is 100% your creation
(I am not talking about abusive situations). You can change your view…We change our views all the time. Take a moment to ask, Is that change leading you in a positive creation?