Developing More Compassion for Yourself
We accept the idea to give compassion to another person who stand in need of it; yet taking the time to really access our need for compassion is not a high priority on the daily “To-do” list.
Recent psychological studies are confirming the wisdom that has long been taught in age old wisdom, that developing more compassion for yourself will make you happier and more successful at reaching your goals.
Personally, I am grateful for these studies and the knowledge that is coming forth to help woman strengthen the family. These studies were not available more than 30 years ago, when I began raising my first child.
Whether you are a man or woman, you cannot give something that you do not have, nor are giving yourself. So whatever your personal beliefs maybe, here are six benefits of self-compassion and six methods for attaining them.
6 Benefits of Having Compassion for Yourself
1. Experience greater happiness. Self-compassion means valuing yourself and treating yourself well. You’re bound to feel better when you remove negative self-talk and become a better friend to yourself.
2. Accomplish your goals more easily. There’s no need to criticize yourself to eliminate bad habits.
3. Become more resilient. Accept that life is full of ups and downs; take them in stride instead of being derailed by self-pity.
4. Feel more motivated. Why so much talk about valuing yourself? Because there truly is no one in this world exactly like you.
5. Feel more connected with others.
6. Express more compassion towards others.
6 Methods for Experiencing Greater Happiness, & Developing More Compassion for Yourself
1. Dispel the myths about self-compassion. You may associate being gentle with being lazy, or not expecting enough of yourself. Compassion is about focusing your mind, and channeling your time and energy into constructive activities, such as thoughts and actions that uplift and improve rather than beating up on yourself.
2. Take charge of your emotions. Accepting disappointments as part of life enables you to remain at peace. You can accept your true feelings without letting them overwhelm you.
3. Change your self-talk. We sometimes say things to ourselves that we would regard as too hurtful to say to anyone else. Focus on giving yourself practical suggestions rather than calling yourself names.
4. Relax. Create an environment where you can generate compassion. Reduce stress and transition into a better frame of mind with meditation or some soft music.
5. Treat yourself to something nice. Just like you bring a meal over to a sick friend, look for ways to be your own benefactor. Brew a cup of your favorite tea or commiserate with yourself if you get stuck in heavy traffic.
6. Surround yourself with positive role models. If you feel like you’ve been conditioned to be harsh with yourself as the only way to get results, you may need to surround yourself with reminders to stay on your new path. Observe people who seem compassionate and adapt their methods to your own situation. Read books or take a workshop on compassion.
12 Affirmations that encourage ones own sense of Identity and Power. Super cool to write on a post-it note and stick around were they, as well as yourself will constantly read them.