I have found that the word elegance is misunderstood. Often the image that comes to ones mind is an object or lifestyle that is overly expensive, perhaps even prideful. But to the Lord, I believe elegance is simply another word for refinement, and a movement towards graceful change.
Take for example the different seasons of life. Do you remember those days when you could hardly wait for your first date? I do, I use to go for walks in the fields dreaming of some handsome guy walking by my side. And wow, what about longing for your drivers license? Did any of you do that? I remember driving for hours in the empty field behind our house just to practice. Could you hardly wait for college or to leave home and get on your own? It seemed as if time would not pass fast enough; but sure enough each event came finding you and I ready and prepared on some level for the change. With the finishing of one season and the opening of another comes marriage, family, and aging – (oh, I do hate the aging), as time ticks on, leaving you now looking back at how quickly each day is passing.
Life is not life without its fair share of regrets, sorrow and unfulfilled promises. Some you have found peace, while perhaps others have left you wounded and still battling the effects and casualties. However, no matter what has transpired, when you take a fair look at yourself, you notice a pattern of molding, redefining and shaping. An awakened of your deepest inner strength; a flame lit by God and fanned by experience.
This process of adapting, changing and redefining your path is what makes up elegance. Elegance is the soft touch of taking God’s hand. The comfort felt from being guided and directed. The awareness of, and fulfilling of personal needs. And the willingness, that blossoms through change, by grasping the opportunity to add life and beauty to all you encounter. Elegance is seeing an unfulfilled need and filling it.
Below is 3 of the 7 important human Needs and the reactions noticed when unfulfilled.
- The Need for Passion – Unfulfilled reaction….argumentative, callous, depression, apathy
- The Need for Agency – Unfulfilled reaction….feeling of limitation, resistance, taking offense
- The Need for Acknowledgment – Unfulfilled reaction…..Ignore, Disregard, Fearful, Overbearing.
Will be continued Tomorrow……the other 4 and what results you feel and see when these 7 are fulfilled.