This article is not to rant and rave about the media and it’s negative influences, but rather a few facts and helpful tips for moms. My goal is to empower mothers with the tools to teach their children strong problem solving skills with which to boldly face life’s ever changing circumstances.
As a mother, I strive to teach my children resilience. I want them to understand that those “things” and events in life that bring instant happiness are wonderful and serve a good purpose; yet it’s a type of happiness that creates a craving, becoming a bottomless pit seeking and requiring continual, perpetual fulfillment. The challenge is to teach that lasting happiness, real happiness, the kind that will satisfy personal need, bring a realization of worth, and nourish the inner ego must start and grow from within. Here is when they learn the power to solve problems, gain confidence and become a power of influence in the world.
Modern facts have proven what was stated by Elder M. Russell Ballard back in 1989. He stated that, “watching more than two hours of television a day without the careful selection of programs can keep children from playing together, being creative, reading, and interacting with parents. Such television watching is psychologically addictive, can encourage physical passivity, can overpower and desensitize a child’s sense of sympathy for suffering, and can cause children to lose the ability to learn from reality.” (Conference Report, Apr. 1989, p. 99; or Ensign, May 1989, pp. 78-79,)
The words “…encourage physical passivity, can overpower and desensitize a child’s sense of sympathy for suffering, and can cause children to lose the ability to learn from reality” In my family, I noticed the more combative games that were played from the electronic devices, the more agitated my children became. However, temptation became the greatest and easiest for me to give in, turning to the captivating power of these games to “babysit” for hours, when I needed to get something done.
The day that I recognized my influencing power to lift and edify or squelch, extinguish and oppress my children’s light through my daily responses and actions, I realized who and what had the more powerful influence. No matter what seemed to be occupying their time at the moment, little eyes were always upon me, absorbing not only action but my personal energetic attitude.
As mothers we delight in seeing ourselves mirrored through the actions and attitudes of our children, but that mirror cracks when the reflection is of impatience, unhappiness or even the deathly silence of a depressed response. I became more and more grateful for this kind of mirror as it served to illuminate my real weakness of the moment and a springboard for positive change.
First tip I share with you,
When the choice is to focus on the past or the present, repent, let-go of the past and focus on the present. The more “energy”/focus you can give to this moment, this day, will result in a powerful tomorrow. Yes, the mind has created pathways of memory from the past, but to create what you want, something new, that energy must be channeled into the present. Then new pathways which are planted are given the care and nourishment to grow.
2nd, I live by the “Open and Firm” philosophy. Open to God’s daily, hourly inspiration; and Firm in entertaining thoughts that generate a mindset filled with light.
A firm thought, an energetic attitude to set your wheels in motion is the words “In His Strength“. “Live and give in life fulfilling my responsibilities with enthusiasm. Giving no time or attention to self-pity. Or caught in the whirlpool of another person’s chaos. Being able to understand and show empathy; yet all the while staying separate and grounded in the attitude of my own.” Focus on these words and see what visual image might come to your mind. Send me a note and share.
Watch for the info on the free call coming this Friday, and make this an energetically, happy day.