Someone’s cry for comfort may be their last cry; but, how will you know? How do you know that your one act of kindness will make a difference, a moment of change that will last a life time? Ignoring these urges are our greatest temptation, for they rarely come at our convenience; at least that has been my experience.
For me these cries for help typically come at night when I feel extremely weary. The thought of laying my head on my pillow, becomes this exhilarating act like I am about to receive a grand prize reward. Typically this is the time when someone needs just one more act of love, one more need fulfilled, and I am faced with the decision of whether to ignore it, offer a quick fix with instructions to march off to bed, or muster up the strength to follow this prompting and administer one more act of love and gentleness for their suffering.
I have not, nor will I reach such a pinnacle of perfection, where I am capable of fulfilling everyone’s needs, nor do I always act upon the first call. But through trial and error I have learned to respond to these powerful promptings that repeat over and over in my mind. No longer do I stop to analyze or question when I am being nudged to do something, I simply just act.
Tonight came such a moment as my youngest child was requesting a little more attention then usual. After answering her urgent questions I sent her to her bed. Instantly came the words, “Ask her to jump into your bed and hold her for a few moments”. My first thought was “I am too tired, she will be fine.” But the words repeated themselves over and over letting me know it’s time to stop avoiding and do something.
I haven’t always been so responsive. The promptings usually to come in the middle of a major project or after when I am feeling exhausted. But having missed a special moment, because I ignored a prompting, I’ve never ignore it again. I learned my lesson the time I ignored the thoughts to call my grandmother, I was busy with a project and told myself I would call her later in the day, I never got ahold of her because she had passed away unexpectedly.
So when the feeling came strong, late one night, to go down stairs and hold my teenage daughter Aimee, I listened. And even though exhaustion tempted me to stay, I pulled myself out of bed. Down the stairs I went in the dark with no understanding of why I was getting this prompting. She was already in bed but not yet asleep. I slipped in under the covers and pulled this young women close into my arms just as I had when she was small. I layed there in silence holding her, I knew she was filled with worry and I wanting to comfort her troubled mind; But this time no words came, only a quick glimps of her dressed all in white and I was kneeling next to her. She was radiant and I could see the details of what seemed to be a simple, but elegant wedding dress. The picture came so fast, yet so clear. I told her that I saw her as a beautiful bride and the details of the scene I just saw. In silence we just layed there and as I comforted and held her she snuggled into my arms. Unaware was I that this would be the last time I held her, for it was the eve before her fatal car crash.
I realized the special blessing I received to hold my daughter one more time. What if I had ignored that thought to leave my sleepy bed, too tired and weary to go comfort my child? I have no regrets of missing an hour of sleep.
The other day I heard a mother say, “I have spoiled my child by holding her too much these first few weeks of life, now she won’t let me put her down.” Mothers, when your child cries as you put them down, don’t listen to the words of others telling you, that you are spoiling your little one by holding them too much. You will never regret latter in life those extra moments of comfort and tenderness you offer. This world is filled with the energy of uncertainty, confusion, worry and fear and your little ones can feel these frequencies. They have no understanding that they are picking up the vibrations of others. So as you hold them close, and fill yourself with calm and peace they will feel this frequency and their bodies system will begin to match yours. Your soothing vibration begins the energetic process that settles their mind.
I don’t advocate children sleeping with their parents, but if you have to share your bed a night or two, ok maybe the first year or so, there will come a day when your bed is “un-cool”. Just remember, no matter how tired you are, or how empty you may feel, those extra hugs are never wasted. And when a thought repeats over and over in your mind, that is the signal to Act.