Nothing is stopping me now! I am going for it. It is time to move from my head filled with hopes, dreams and beliefs; to the heart …where beliefs become actions. So don’t expect perfection as of yet, but as the saying goes..”Practice makes Perfect”. 🙂
This is for all you moms who have, or are raising children and are now experiencing the agony of stepping out of the way, respecting your child’s opportunity and ability to choose and make their own decisions.
Have you ever felt this way?
“I have got a thousand things to do…. paperwork to get ready for the accountant, clean out a “catch all” room, pay the bills, make some phone calls, attend a meeting and finish a marketing project for my business; and that is just a few of the many accomplishments I can get done in a day. However, it never ceases to amaze me how my ability for high productivity can come to a screeching halt, when a thought of concern and worry for a family member enters my mind. Those thoughts are usually situations that I have no control over, or very little influence if any at all. Yet the residue that lingers as I attempt to push the thought away, paralyzes my every effort, turning me into a walking zombie moving motionlessly from task to task.
Why do I let worrisome thoughts overcome me? I quickly make an attempt to hide my troubled mind and heart by turning to something that can adjust my thinking as well as deaden the onset of gripping emotions. Food has typically been the first choice – something my waistline does not need. Or maybe a long chat on the phone – nice, but not productive for the accomplishments of my goals. There are a vast array of time wasters ready to be put to use in hopes of getting myself back on track, offering temporary relief until the cycle starts over again.
Has this ever happened to you? Maybe you are experiencing this now? There is relief. My belief is that my future is not determined by the situations that are surrounding me now. My future is determined by my faith, my choices, and my efforts. So with that in mind…..do your part to take care of yourself and God will magnify your efforts.
First – take a DEEP BREATH. Breathing in and out several times is a great way to connect and bring the mind and body back on line. Just as a well kept home is a choice and takes effort….You have to make the choice and put forth the effort to break the cycle of worrisome thinking, even after it has started.
Second and most importantly, figure out what the absolute end result, the end goal that you truly desire. How you want to participate in and live your life. What impressions of you that you wish to leave with your child, friends and other family members. Once you have clearly created your story with its visual images, energy that image in your mind as you concentrating completely upon it; truly the ultimate test of faith, belief, desire and effort.
Next – Take a moment to neutralize the emotions, that have impacted your body’s momentum and created this situation within you. And finally, just a few more simple steps (coming in part 2) and you are well on your way; a wonder on wheels focused and direct. Your back …. once again being the proactive individual blazing the trail for others.
I have learned to never justify negative thinking or a desire to respond in a negative manner. No matter how much I am tempted to excuse my feelings of frustration or anger, negative reactions, no matter how much I love this person, feelings that are out of control are never right. The reality is that I am the one who pays the price, and the price is high.
What price do I pay? Well to start with my health. These negative emotional responses create chemicals that are volatile and extremely toxic for the body. Second, a depletion of confidence in self as negative habits are practiced; giving power to a relentless decline in ones well-being and over all happiness.
Let us know how you have handled these heart-wrenching situations… write your comments below.