I have been doing a great amount of reflecting on the third step of setting goals, has stated in an earlier blog “the plan”. This step is to decide what assistance, or help I would require of the Lord to bring my goal to completion. (In other words, what is my part and what is God’s part?)
Having the ability to exercise enough faith to “draw down the powers of heaven”, one must have a specific end goal in mind. Most of the time this is not the problem that creates disillusionment and unfulfilled goals. Rather the difficulty arises through our personal feelings of inadequacy.
For me, my conflict begins when my thoughts and perceptions move to a feeling of isolation with no one to help, the “I am all alone”, no one is here to help accomplish this task” syndrome. As I find myself once again stuck in this mindset, thoughts begin to flow overboard filled with the belief that, “if it is to be, it is up to me – so I had better work HARD AND FURIOUS.”
Quickly I lose emotional balance becoming overly burdened with the feeling of “no support”. From these thoughts pulsate the emotional vibration of worry and fear… “will I be able to do this alone?, Can I match up to every requirement 100% ?” As a result, I then begin to push a little harder in my response to this inner, rumbling voice saying…”if you are just determined enough, then it will happen.” “Remember, if it is really going to happen, it is all up to me.”
It doesn’t take long before my “road worn” body, pressing forward, struggling to carry this mental “hand cart” up one more hill, that I begin to lose footing. I find myself slipping back into feelings of defeat, frazzled nerves and mental exhaustion. I am tempted to give up.
I should have reach my goal by now! All I see is what seems to be never ending circles of questions and concerns rather than moving ahead causing me to question whether I am truly making progress or wasting my time. I begin to feel that I have been moving in the wrong direction, because my goal has not materialized yet. Surely I should have completed it by now! I should have been further down the road, seeing the payoff of my hard labor?! My confidence begins to waver and I question my own capabilities.
Where is the weak link that is continually stopping my progress? The weakness that is causing me to feel like I must start over with the never ending question of wondering whether I am truly on the right track?
The weak link is my failure to make specific, thought out decisions regarding what I am capable of accomplishing and what assistance I require of the Lord. My ability to be specific in asking Him to enlarge my ability, filling in the gap created by my limitations. Through this clear understanding and willingness to accept the limits of my physical ability, a flame of faith ignites, fueling my efforts and filling me once again with peaceful hope. The knowing that, because and through the strengths of our partnership my particular goal will materialize and become a reality!
God has created us to be self sufficient, highly motivated beings; yet our capabilities do have a limit. Recognizing our limit and asking for specific, thought out help becomes a requirement. A requirement which shows our understanding for the need of God’s helping hand and a mature wisdom that our personal dedication alone is not sufficient.
Having the patience to follow these specific step helps to:
- understand if what I am asking for is a strong desire or simply a strong wish?
- analyze the actual motives behind a desire or goal, if they are pure?
- recognize if I am willing to put forth the required time and effort?
Training ourselves to ask for specific assistance of the Lord will help eliminate the sloppy, quick, often careless, memorized pattern we fall into, when asking for help. We will no longer make blanket statements such as, “please bless this…please give me that…”; rather careful consideration of asking for specific assistance ultimately will build a stronger partnership with the Lord.
One may ask, “why does the Lord require us to ask, when he knows exactly what it is that we need?” This asking allows us to stop and recognize the hand of the Lord in our accomplishments, stopping the tendency to fall into the foul-icy that this accomplishment was simply the results of my own personal dedication.