My titles: Wife, mother, self-employed, leader of women’s group, service volunteer, etc……You know that list we all have that never ends. I love doing all of these things – no complaints; but handling the stress that goes with each one can be quite daunting. Just when I think I have it all together, something comes up bringing a wave of stress. Perfect! more practice to develop the skill of flowing with the tide!
Did you realize that while you are so called “flowing through life”, your little ones, and not so little ones, are picking up your energy; and in their own precious little way attempting to process it for you.
You are probably thinking, “what does that mean?” Think of the times you have walked into a room right after an argument. The feeling in the air is thick enough to be cut with a knife. You can tell something was going on. You are picking up the energy that just happened in that room. And just as you pick up the energy of people disagreeing, so can your kids. One problem, they don’t understand, nor have any idea what to do with it.
Our children because of the loving bond that they have for us, their mother and father, have an unspoken desire to make our lives easier; so silently they do all that they can to make things “better”. One of the ways is to unconsciously lift our stressful energy, taking it on themselves. As noble as this may seem there is one big problem! – They are not equiped with the skills to know what to do with it.
This emotion, (energy in motion), mingles in with their energetic system. Eventually what we see is the physical results, behavior that acts out, weight gain, illness, anxiety and much more. This energy, also known as stress has to go somewhere giving us the factors of why at least 80% of illness is stress related.
Now this is not Psychology 101…absolutely not my purpose. Nor are we prescribing, leave that to the professional doctors. This is energy, stuck energy. All I am suggesting is to pay a little more attention to when you are stressed,….. because they are. They feel it, they live it, they try to process it.
I came across this article below in Modern Mom and reprinted just a small part of it…the part that sang the most to me. Our focus right now is to teach ways that energetically bridge communication pathways, building stronger families.
Would you agree that a Happy mom creates Happy kids.
Coming next week, patterns for an easy, yet great stress kit….my happy mom kit – cause if mama ain’t happy….nobody’s happy!
Also videos coming out soon on our website…. Happy feet – Communicate with Reflexology, and training for Sand Tray.
What are your best ways to let go of stress? Leave a comment below.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ednxYncMzWA Quick video to remind us to play like a kid…
COMING SOON… video class helping to clear the energy of stress http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I6nDw_YVW3A&feature=related
This is a small piece from this article: ” How important is it for kids to have their parents to be happy?” http://www.modernmom.com/article/christine-carter-interview
Q: How important is it for kids to have their parents to be happy?
A: Emotions are unbelievably contagious. If parents are stressed out, the kids are stressed out. If you feel happy, you laugh, you smile and part of your brain lights up. Positive emotions, feeling content and having gratitude gives parents the resources to be better parents. And happier parents are warmer, better listeners and give consistent discipline.
I know that dinnertime is important happiness time so that’s a rule I make for myself and for them. And I feel miserable if my weekends are taken up by sports. They can have one team sport a year – just one, only winter or spring. At first my kids thought that was cruel and mean. Now they recognize that frees us to do fun stuff together and I’m a lot happier.
Q: You’ve said that the number 1 thing parents do wrong in their quest to be happy is to try to be perfect. Why do parents put so much pressure on themselves to be perfect, and what’s wrong with trying to be perfect?
A: There’s nothing wrong with trying to be skillful but there’s no such thing as a perfect parent. That creates anxiety. You’re parenting through fear and anxiety. We’re much happier when we allow ourselves to make mistakes. Some of our best growth as parents comes when we do something we wouldn’t want to do, what we wouldn’t want the neighbors to see.