Sundays are suppose to be relaxing…..but when a child is going through an anxiety attack, relaxation goes out the window. Everything seems fine and then all of a sudden panic sets in, perhaps unstoppable crying and inability to take a breath.
The feeling that you can’t breath can be overwhelming….”what is happening, I can’t get air”? The first time I ever experienced this feeling was several months after the death of our oldest daughter. I was at the kitchen table reading my scriptures and all of a sudden, I can’t get my breath. I had never experienced this before and panic was about to set in. Instantly an image came into my mind.The picture of someone giving a child mouth to mouth resuscitation. Interesting the image was a child. With little children we are taught to cover their mouth and nose – forcing air in through both opening. As I focused on this image I could feel myself calming and the ability to breath came back.
The last few days I noticed my daughters’ attitude had been unsettled for a couple of days. We get busy and in a hurry; therefore, we don’t recognize all of the signs until something major grabs our attention. It had only been a week since her older sister (recently married and living in another state) left with her husband to go back to their home after staying with us for a glorious two month visit.
I hadn’t even realized that the impact of her leaving once again, would have on us. The emotions of grief that we would all have to sort out and experience. My way of handling or dealing with it is to “get busy” – not always good, because it is like sweeping things under the rug. (Buried emotions is another post) My husband shuts down and has a hard time getting going. But what about the children? Had I ever paid attention to their pain – how they grieve? Obviously not.
To keep from turning this into a book, I will share more thoughts on grief later. For now, let me share what I did that helped her to move out of this panic.
Step 1 – When something traumatic is happening, I use to become stern, direct and sound cross, because of the inner fear that is going on inside. Desiring to change this habit – this work has helped me to develop a greater ability to handle stress. So # 1 is keep calm. I usually have to stop, take a few deep breaths and really focus my thoughts.
Step 2 – I held the two fight and flight points on the back of the neck and head – while gently, but directly telling her to breath in and out. Finding that this wasn’t working as fast as it usually does – I had someone else hold them while I moved to step 3.
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Step 3 – Using essential oils I started pressing points on her feet. (Reflexology) Up around the big toes (representing the head and neck) and across the ball of the foot (representing the lungs).
Why head and neck? Well, we are dealing with thought energy which has put her in a state of panic. Physically we are addressing a major area of the brain as well as glands which play a BIG part in our emotions and directing how the body responds. My goal is to calm her, to help her feel in control of her breathing again and then change the thought energy, switching the emotional energy that her body is responding to.
Later after she is calmed down, I want to address the patterns of energy that were created by her thoughts. A very easy way to do this is to engaged her in our R P C technique using Sand, (see video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I6nDw_YVW3A ). This gives her the ability to express these emotions. Because she is ultra sensitive, her responses are very dramatic (a recipe for an impatient and stressful home) I want to help her release this emotion healthy; therefore, I used another tool in my “toolbox” – the music from the Comfort cd. This music has the beautiful ability – like non I have found yet to reach deep inside and embrace the gripping emotions of the heart, address them. Seems like no one can speak the right words that truly bring comfort, that comes from God and He has blessed us with many ways to gently assist the body. These gifts, “tools” give us the ability to let-go of for the paralyzing thought energies allowing His grace and power to ultimately heal our souls.
How have you addressed your children’s anxiousness? Anxiety?
With a new school year around the corner….there will be many new issues that will arise.